Whether you’re married, living with someone, or just dating, you can find yourself in a miserable relationship that you can’t seem to find the strength to put an end to.

For some of us, our self esteem is so low that if we have somebody in our life, no matter how unhappy the relationship may be, we hold on for all we’re worth, because having somebody is better than having nobody. At least that’s what we tell ourselves, in our less lucid moments.

“Yes, Insert-Name-Here is a real jerk, and makes me cry more than he/she makes me smile, but at least I’m not alone!”.

You may not be alone, but is it really and truly worth being miserable and unhappy just to have someone in your life? For some people, sadly, the answer is yes. They’re convinced that if they get rid of the current person in their life, nobody else would want them, and they’ll spend the rest of their life alone. That’s not true, of course, but if they believe it is, they hold on to that unhappy relationship.

For some, just the fear of being alone, for however brief a time, is enough to keep them stuck where they are. They can’t believe that it’s possible to be happy if you’re unattached. They feel incomplete if they don’t have another person to share their life with.

If you are in an unhappy relationship, and find yourself thinking from time to time about how much happier and better off you’d be without Insert-Name-Here, maybe the tapping script below can help you to find some clarity, and the strength to do what is best for you.

Tapping Script To Help Move Out of a Bad Relationship

Karate chop:

• Even though I’m miserable in my marriage/relationship, I’m afraid to do anything about it, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
• Even though I’m so scared of being alone that I’m afraid to end my marriage/relationship, and I’m unhappy a lot of the time, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
• Even though I’d probably be better off without _________ in my life, I can’t seem to make myself do anything about that, so I stay miserable, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

Eyebrow: I’m so miserable in this marriage/relationship
Side of eye: ________ doesn’t make me happy
Under eye: But I’m afraid that if I get rid of __________
Under nose: I’ll spend the rest of my life alone
Chin: I don’t want to be alone
Collar bone: But I don’t want to be unhappy either
Under arm: Choosing to consider ending this marriage/relationship
Top of head: So I can find some happiness in my life.

Eyebrow: I’ve been so miserable and unhappy
Side of eye: But I deserve some happiness in my life
Under eye: I’m recognizing that if I want happiness
Under nose: I probably need to end this marriage/relationship
Chin: It won’t be an easy thing to do
Collar bone: But to work my way toward happiness
Under arm: I need to get __________ out of my life
Top of head: Releasing my doubts and fears about ending this marriage/relationship.

Eyebrow: Letting go of my worry about being alone
Side of eye: Being alone and happy would be better than this
Under eye: Breathing out worry and anxiety over ending the marriage/relationship
Under nose: Breathing in peace and confidence
Chin: I can change my life for the better
Collar bone: By getting rid of ___________
Under arm: Releasing more of the worry over ending this
Top of head: As I move toward healing with this issue.

Eyebrow: Continuing to let go of my worry about being alone
Side of eye: Looking forward to happiness and peace of mind
Under eye: Letting go of my doubts about ending this marriage/relationship
Under nose: As I move toward a place of confidence
Chin: Looking forward to smiling more
Collar bone: And planning for a happy new chapter of my life
Under arm: As I release the last of the worry over ending this
Top of head: And move ahead with a calm confidence.

If this tapping script doesn’t feel appropriate for you, please don’t let that stop you from tapping. Change the wording to be more specific to your situation, and as long as you’re talking about and tapping on your actual feelings and emotions, the tapping should make a difference.should make a difference.

In order to be able to make a major change in your life such as leaving a bad relationship, you have to strong, determined and motivated.  Major life changes are difficult, and sometimes traumatic. 

 

Maybe you need some help in remembering what a strong person you are.  In that case, start off by tapping on:

 

"Even though I'm feeling weak and a little scared right now, I'm reminding myself that I really am a strong person, and I can handle making the changes that I need to make in my life."

 

Maybe, even though you know in your heart and your gut that you need to make a change, the motivation just isn't there.  It's easier to stay in a situation that you're used to, no matter how uncomfortable, than to risk change.  If that is the case, you'll want to tap on something like:

 

"Even though I'm not crazy about taking risks, and I'm not really sure that I want to, what I really want is to be happy, and it's worth taking a risk to get what I want, and I deeply and profou

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